“For some people of color, being poly[amorous] is a serious cultural risk. We risk being alienated and disowned by our indigenous community, and while there are many polys who incur this risk, people of color have historically relied upon their community for survival… Being a polyamorous person of color effectively means leaving this all behind for a community that is currently blind to intra-racial tensions, or struggling to hold on to both.”—
I can’t comment on you and the area you live in, but one general effect of white supremacy I’ve noticed more since Black friends of mine pointed it out to me is that white people, including me, can simply ignore anyone except for other white people, or notice them less, or not notice that they’re not white(!), or assume they’re not part of the same group or aren’t resident.
White estimates, including my estimates, of “how many Black people are there in my city / social group” have turned out to be consistently low (outside of things like immigration scaremongering, which I guess is maybe a different thing?).
Or, y’know, of course it could also be that the exclusion in your area is massive enough that there literally aren’t any openly non-monogamous Black people. Like I said, I can’t comment for you and your area!
WILL YOU sign the petition to Withdraw the racist Exhibition “Exhibit B - The Human Zoo” by South African theatre-maker Brett Baily from showing at London’s Barbican from 23rd-27th September….
After reading an article in The Guardian which began… "It’s the first…
"The only problem is that the young black performers, cast locally at every stop along the tour, aren’t quite getting it. “How do you know we are not entertaining people the same way the human zoos did?” asks one. “How can you be sure that it’s not just white people curious about seeing black people?” adds another. As the temperature in the room begins to rise, the group cries out in unison: “How is this different?””
I think they get it…
“But, looking back at some of his earlier work, Bailey is now the first to admit that pushing too hard and being too bold is an occupational hazard. “People have said, ‘White boy, you are messing with my culture. You have no right to tell the story of our spiritual practices or our history, because you are getting it all wrong.’ And I can’t defend those works today in the same way I could back then. For all I know, I could look back at Exhibit B in 10 years and say, ‘Oh my God, I am doing exactly what they are accusing me of.’